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Happy International Women’s Day!

Let’s honour the women in our lives, as well as the feminine aspects within us all…

March 8th is International Women's Day. Its aim is to create a more inclusive, gender equal world. Equality is the name of the game! Started by the Suffragettes in the early 1900's, the first International Women's Day was celebrated in 1911. Until 1928 voting rights were exclusively for landowners excluding women and working class men.

In today's newsletter my wise and wonderful friend women's guide Dr. Christine Page and I explore one of the great taboos of our time - women's hormones. We all have hormones and they are the most natural thing in the world, though the shame, denial, fear and misunderstandings around them are shocking! It's dangerous how women are misdiagnosed, mis-medicated and can end up in dangerous places in their minds and psyches.

I've worked with so many men who turn into scared little boys inside when they're in the midst of a hormonal woman.

Women, men and households would do well to embrace these natural changes and grow with them, rather than medicate, judge, blame and shame them. Far too many good relationships break down where hormones, logic and emotions clash. Self-awareness, information, good nutrition and communication could save lives and relationships.

I've worked with so many men who turn into scared little boys inside when they're in the midst of a hormonal woman. They (understandably) take it personally, think about it logically and try to figure out what they've done wrong - and how to fix it! There's nothing to fix and everything to hold and be with, as wild and often suppressed emotions show up for natural expression. 

Such emotions need to be given space or be met with love - not logic - and as we breathe back into present connection, so all things can naturally pass, in their own sweet ways, as nature would have it. This is not to disrespect the journeys that women, their partners, their families and their colleagues go through. Far from it - such important journeys are often shared in our MenSpeak men's groups, our WomenSpeak women's groups and our AllGenderSpeak groups all of which have saved sanity, relationships and lives (they're totally FREE for the first month, then £10-£20 per month for unlimited daily online groups).

4 Steps to Honour the Female & our Feminine....

Shed light & love on your life with this transformational exercise!

1. List the women in your life, present and past, who have shaped the person that you are today. Your mother, your grandmother, godmother, step-mother, aunt, sister, wife, daughter, first love, lovers, neighbours, colleagues, whoever and in whatever way. Were they always good to you? Did you experience pain? Women as abusers - sexual and otherwise - is something Princess Diana's brother Charles Spencer brought to the nation's attention. Something I've worked with too.

2. List their attributes that touched you, how they've affected you and shaped where you come from inside. Let the adult in you hold your inner-child safe and list the incidents that caused you pain, then safely feel, heal and update your self judgements. Inhale the pain into the present, then exhale it to the past.

3. Appreciate the goodness that you have experienced and choose to inhale and feel peak moments of love and joy into the present, then exhale as you consciously embody this. Has your heart been broken and will you risk love again? Allow your adult self to feel safe enough to celebrate life with others, rather than offering them your wounded child to save. The adult in you can hold your child safe in love, so you're free to unconditionally love others.

4. If you feel moved to make contact with any of the women on your list and share with them the moments that you've loved. Love is unconditional so no ulterior motives please. If you can’t make direct contact, then close your eyes, take a deep breath and connect with them through your feelings. Speak with them through your heart.

What's the difference between 'men' and boys?

Maybe it's little to do with age and more to do with 'stage' in life and conscious expression...

I believe the fundamental difference between the mature masculine (men) and immature masculine (boys) is that men are in touch with our feminine sides. Do you carry any shame, blame or denial of the feminine aspects of your personality? What's in the way of your authentic presence and expression?

Men can listen, respond, collaborate, accept and be real with what is. Boys often make a lot of noise as they react, compete, survive their fears and fantasies and try to fix and control things as they avoid the facts and their feelings. 

This has  nothing to do with age and everything to do with developmental stage. So don't be 'that' man and forget about being 'the' man but grow into the authentic person that you are, as you balance your masculine and feminine aspects, being true to yourself in every moment. I'd be happy to show you how.

 

Meet My Friend, Dr Christine Page!

The power of hormones and how to navigate them...

 

My recent Agony Uncle column for the iPaper

My wife got a £22,000 pay rise - she’s angry that I don’t want her to tell anyone.

I’ve been happily married to my wife for six years. When we first met I was earning considerably more as a consultant than her in her role in marketing. She randomly decided to pivot and retrained in coding – during which time I supported her. I’ve always expressed she doesn’t need to work and I would fully support her as we plan on having children soon anyway. She managed to get her first entry job quite soon after her role finished and has been plugging away at it, but then last week she told me she’d been offered a new job, and will effectively get a £22,000 pay jump.

'Fundamentally, I wonder if you believe that you and your wife are equal,’ says Kenny (Photo: Daniel de la Hoz/Getty)

I didn’t even know she had applied for a new job, and obviously I’m really happy for her, but when she said she couldn’t wait to tell our friends and family, I expressed there wasn’t any need to, and we got into an argument. I just don’t know why everyone in our lives needs to know that part?

I come from a family where it’s usually the man who is the traditional breadwinner and I think there’s something a bit weird about the woman earning more in the relationship. I feel like it reflects badly on me and whether I’m able to provide for us or not. I’m also annoyed that my wife is clearly now prioritising her career above our family plans. Personally, I think that’s nothing to brag about.

What should I do to make her come to her senses?

Click here for Kenny's response.

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This is a chance for us to check-in and explore where you are, how you are, who you are, your needs, blocks and options in life. We'll explore what might be at play in your life / business, how to change perspectives for dream come true results and gain insight into the bigger picture of your life. Is it time for you to get in the driving seat of your life?

I'm known in the media for my work with men, though 40% of my private clients are women, who are often self-made, in the public eye, professional, powerful and courageous enough to meet themselves where their spirits were broken and they felt powerless, so they can safely turn their lives around. Some of my clients are simply good mothers, often managing inherited wealth, wanting the best for their families. 

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