How To Listen To Your Inner Wisdom

...and get in alignment with The Force

Happy Star Wars Day! May The Fourth be with you... My work is all about living in alignment with the force - in every moment. In love rather than with fear. With conscious responses to what life brings - rather than unconscious, unconsidered automatic-pilot reactions that follow the hard wired neurological pathways of survival from days of old, long gone battles, absent critics and toxic situations from the past that no longer need to be limiting present life. Do you know how to unlearn said wiring and set your spirit free?

"Kenny's the Yoda for men" said Geoff Norcott on Times Radio. An egoic part of me would rather have young Luke Skywalker's strong vitality!*

How to live the force in daily life...

Practical steps for here and now, beyond fixing in the future!

• Feed your life force:

Get conscious about what feeds you and get real about who and what drains you.

Toxic thoughts, consciousness altering drink, drugs, false food and unconscious ejaculation are quick fixes. Stolen highs come with hangovers and your life-force will need to recover and replenish.

Fantastic fantasies, conscious presence, nourishing nosh, movement, sound sleep and good relationships feed your life-force. The energetic frequency of healthy highs attracts live-changing coincidences.

• Follow the signs: 

Listen to your heart and navigate life’s signs and temptations.

‘am I?’ is a fearful perspective, playing small and safe, handing power over for the approval of others. Such survival attracts trouble to shoot and keeps creative life at bay.

“I am” is a creative perspective, being available to life as it reveals the signs and temptations on our pathways. Temptations show life how much we can take, so bigger life doesn't harm us.

• Empower your masculine and feminine:

Conscious people balance both.

Yang up! Know when to step up and take your space, beyond fearful fantasy and fruitless thought. Be one, and be one of, as you pass the ball from within the oneness of the team and know when its your time to score.

Yin still… Take space and listen to the whisperings of life as it guides you. Breathe calm and present, allow the old to pass, receive the new to inspire as you let go, so life can fall together.

 "Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter..." Master Yoda  (*OK! I don't want to be Luke any more...)

• Programme your environment:

Then become a product of it.

If we are to be products of our inner and outer environments, then let go of what’s no longer true and make space for those who can bring out of the best in you. Create the environment that you wish to be a product of.

No need to be all serious, good and holy, take part in the dance of life with a skip in your step, a twinkle in your eye and the good company with whom you can grow. Your attitude to life will attract the world you wish to live in.

 • Breathe:

Breathe deep into your body and let go of your stresses on the out breath. If you're shallow breathing, you're probably thinking about things too much and not letting things pass. Breathe yourself present and connected, breathe your inner child safe inside of you, breathe yourself available to life.

• Laugh:

When I was a child, the 'Readers Digest' informed me that laughter is the best medicine - I had no idea what that meant. Now I am a man - I realise the wisdom in those words. What better way to get things in perspective? Break the spell on stress by laughing-in the authentic you!

• Cry:

Crying isn't just about sadness and grief. People cry to let emotions pass, as well as when they're angry, overwhelmed, lost for words, or when they're 'touched' and hearts open. I shed a tear on Radio 4 tonight at 7.15pm and we will talk about men crying on Times Radio on 16th May at 8pm (more on both below).

• Talk and be heard:

Getting conversations out of your head and into the world helps to formulate perpetual head-talk into good sense, so both you and others can understand what's really going on as it's put into an understandable order. At MenSpeak we "MAN UP! ...and talk about it" as we explore and learn from one another's experiences. We remember that we are not alone and we don't need to isolate until we're sorted. So come along and break the spell on looping and loopy!!

To quote Carl Gustav Jung: "The unrelated human being lacks wholeness, for one can achieve wholeness only through the soul and the soul can not exist without its other side, which is always found in relation to another".

Come along and grow with men every day online at MenCheck-in or with all genders every week online at AllGenderSpeak and live in London fortnightly on Saturday mornings.

Transforming Your Life-force...

The Alchemy of transforming negative energy into the Gold of Goodness

Anger is a potent force, inviting us, in a breath, to follow the feeling back to it's source - the place of a broken spirit, protected by anger, needing the space to feel, heal and get real.

Beyond anger is often grief. Beyond grief is the sacred place of alchemy where toxic trauma can turn into conscious power to fuel you on. 

Toxic fear is blocked love, just waiting to be unstuck, so life can meet you and lead the way. 

If you're stuck and a little lost in limbo I can meet you there and help you turn it around.

The Organ Symphony

Bringing five peoples’ stories of their relationship with one of the five primary organs to life through music - I'm the heart!

I open-heartedly share my past and appropriately shed a tear this evening on Radio 4 at 7.15pm where five of us tell our stories as different internal organs - I'm the heart - and this is put to music by composer, David Owen Norris and the BBC Concert Orchestra with the BBC Singers at Maida Vale Studios literally letting my heart sing. The lungs are the brass section, the kidneys the woodwind section, the brain the percussion and the liver, the strings. I'm not sure whether I feel excitement, or fear listening to this. Probably both! 

My Fortnightly Slot on Times Radio with Geoff Norcott

'Man Friday' with Geoff every other Friday 8pm-8.30pm

Hanging out on Times Radio with my mate Geoff Norcott exploring everything from fatherhood to gambling, feelings to men's groups! Joined by Aidan Phelan the man who created the iconic Beckham hair style, who's had a lifetime plagued with suicidal thoughts. Geoff, Aidan and I have all suffered from anxiety. This show was a right buzz and I was showered with compliments!

I'm in London every fortnight to see clients in my therapy rooms, hold live closed groups, as well as the fortnightly Saturday morning all gender open group live in central London. I celebrate the end of my working week freaking myself out with the adrenaline buzz of going live on air. You can listen to this, and previous shows, here.

Meditation : I Walk With God In Perfect Holiness

I often lead meditations for students of A Course In Miracles

Listening to your inner wisdom is not about 'doing it right' and listening hard, it's more about 'undoing' the thinking and trying so what needs to be heard can be received. So less thought and more space to experience this - click the link below to get high with us!

Heartfelt questions and answers at the end where The Dark Night Of The Soul met authentic love and light.

My recent Agony Uncle column for the iPaper

My daughter's stepfather is walking her down the aisle – I feel so betrayed!

This summer my only daughter is getting married and I’m devastated that I won’t be the one walking her down the aisle. Admittedly, we didn’t have the best relationship for a while – there was cheating on my side and then the marriage between her mum and I fell apart.

We both moved on and while my new wife has struggled to connect with my daughter, which meant we didn’t see each other as much as I would have liked in her teens and early adulthood, my ex-wife’s new partner has become a second father to her.

‘I feel like I’m still being punished for my infidelity and hurting her mum years ago’ (Photo: Charday Penn/Getty)

In her mid-twenties we reconnected properly, at which point she met her fiancé. I really thought we had patched everything up, but then I found out that my daughter had asked her stepfather to walk her down the aisle. I am so unbelievably hurt and I cannot help but feel like I’m still being punished for my infidelity and hurting her mum years ago.

I’m thinking of boycotting the wedding because of the disrespect and embarrassment I’ll no doubt feel on the day. Would this be awful? I feel so strongly!

Click here for Kenny's response.

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I'm known in the media for my work with men, though 40% of my private clients are women who are often self-made, in the public eye, professional, powerful and courageous enough to meet themselves where their spirits were broken and they felt powerless, so they can safely turn their lives around. 

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